What I Regularly Work With

People come to counselling for all sorts of reasons.

Sometimes there's something obvious going on. A relationship that's struggling, anxiety that's getting on top of you, or a problem you've been trying to sort out for years.

Other times, things might be going pretty well, but something just doesn't feel right. You might not even know how to explain it.

I've been working with people for over 25 years, and one thing I've learned is that there's often more going on than we first realise.

Here are some of the things I regularly work with.

Relationships and Intimacy

Relationships can be wonderful, and they can also be incredibly difficult.

You might be having the same arguments over and over, struggling to talk to each other, feeling disconnected, or wondering what happened to the relationship you once had.

Sometimes it's about trust, resentment, or simply wanting different things. Sex and intimacy can also become difficult. Perhaps one of you wants more than the other, or the closeness and desire you once shared seems to have disappeared.

And sometimes you still love each other, but just can't seem to find your way back to one another.

I work with individuals and couples to better understand what's happening. Often there are things going on beneath the arguments that neither person has really noticed.

It's not about deciding who's right or wrong. It's about finding out what's actually happening between you, and whether there's another way forward.

Meaning, Purpose and Life Direction

Sometimes you get to a point in life where you start questioning things.

What am I doing? Is this really the life I want? Why am I not happier when, on paper, everything looks pretty good?

Maybe you've spent years doing what you thought you were supposed to do, and you're starting to wonder what you actually want.

These questions can come up at any age. Sometimes they're triggered by a major change, and sometimes they seem to come out of nowhere.

I enjoy working with people who are questioning their lives, their direction, or even who they think they are.

We don't necessarily need to rush off and find a new purpose. Sometimes it's worth spending a bit of time understanding what's no longer working, and what might be trying to happen instead.

Emotional Struggles and Repeating Patterns

Anxiety, depression, stress, shame, self-doubt. They can all make life pretty difficult.

And sometimes the frustrating thing is that you know what you're doing, you know it's not helping, but you keep doing it anyway.

The same arguments. The same habits. The same reactions.

Of course, sometimes we need practical ways to make life easier, and that's part of the work.

But I'm also interested in why these things happen in the first place.

What is it about this particular situation that gets to you? Why does the same thing keep happening? Is there something we're missing?

Sometimes understanding ourselves a little better can make a surprising difference.

Dreams and Self-Discovery

Dreams have always fascinated me.

They can be strange, embarrassing, frightening, funny, and sometimes completely ridiculous.

But they can also show us sides of ourselves we don't usually pay much attention to.

I work with dreams, but also with the things that happen in everyday life. Unexpected feelings, body sensations, fantasies, relationship difficulties, or those moments when you surprise yourself.

My work is influenced by Process Work and Jungian psychology, which are both interested in exploring the parts of ourselves that aren't always obvious.

I'm not interested in handing out interpretations or telling you what your dreams mean.

I'm much more interested in finding out together.

Working Together

You don't need to have it all worked out before coming to counselling.

You might know exactly what you want help with, or you might just have a feeling that something needs to change.

Either way, we can start there.

I work with individuals and couples, online and in person.

If something you've read here connects with what's happening in your life, you're welcome to book a session. Or, if you'd prefer to ask a few questions first, just get in touch.